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Irritability |
Unable to experience pleasure |
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Crying/weepy/feeling sad |
Loss/Increase of appetite |
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Feeling inadequate as a mother or wife |
General guilt |
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Anxiety |
Disinterested in sex |
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Feeling exhausted most of the time |
Guilty or ashamed of her feelings |
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Lack of motivation |
Concerned about intrusive thoughts |
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Difficulty sleeping |
Worried you are going crazy |
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Difficulty concentrating |
Afraid you will leave her |
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Ruminating thoughts |
Worried it will never get better |
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Intrusive thoughts |
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Explanation of Specific Symptoms
Irritable: A low tolerance for perceived stupidity, inconsideration or foolishness in others. It includes a lower tolerance for frustration. Your reaction to an incident may be excessive.
Crying/weepy/feeling sad: This is often the reaction to frustration, feeling overwhelmed, or stressed out. Women who normally avoid confrontation will probably have this reaction. It is enhanced by the hormonal changes that are occurring.
Feeling inadequate as a mother or wife: This is a common feeling especially if you doesn't have a lot of experience with babies. “Advice” from relatives, magazines, women's shows, etc. may make you feel like a bad mother or wife.
Anxiety: This is excessive worry about stuff, especially things you can't control or inconsequential things. You may describe your feelings as being nervous or having nervous energy. Think of it as a super charged fight or flight reaction with no immediate outlet. Physical actions may include pacing, hand wringing, talking, grooming, or other personal habits. If you has had an anxiety attack before, you understand what is happening. If not, it is harder to describe your feelings.
Feeling exhausted most of the time: Taking care of a newborn is tough and because of their need to eat every 2-3 hours, most parents get little sleep. Exhaustion is normal; however look for feeling exhausted even after adequate rest.
Lack of motivation: Initially you will not be motivated to do more than the minimum. Everyone has days when they just don't feel like doing stuff. This symptom is a continuing lack of motivation where doing the simplest tasks around the house or for yourself (like bathing) seem an effort.
Difficulty sleeping: This is not lack of sleep caused by the baby or being a “light” sleeper, but the inability to get to sleep despite being sleep deprived or exhausted. It is also the inability to get to sleep after you have eliminated other causes such as caffeine, sugar or alcohol intake, doing serious thinking or exercise just before bed. Often the trouble falling asleep comes from not being able to slow down or stop your thoughts which may be disorganized or racing. Note: alcohol initially relaxes the body, and then it rebounds by being more alert.
Difficulty concentrating: Trouble focusing on a task or organizing your thoughts. Interruptions caused by the baby do not count. Interruptions cause by other thoughts popping up in your head do.
Ruminating thoughts: These are thoughts that:
· Repetitive thoughts that occur over and over with difficult stopping them.
Intrusive thoughts: This is a tricky area. In this case intrusive thoughts are extreme thoughts that pop up out of no where and hang around a while. You may fear that you will hurt yourself, hurt the baby, worry about a catastrophe or exaggerate the effect of a simple mistake. The key is frequency. An occasional thought during an emotional or frustrating time that dissipates quickly is normal.
NOTE: Do not ignore this. If the thoughts increase or change to thinking about hurting yourself or the baby, Get help immediately.
Unable to experience pleasure: This isn't about sex. You doesn't get any pleasure from things you previously loved to do.
Loss/Increase of appetite: This can vary and many women may welcome the loss of appetite, if it helps them loose weight gained during pregnancy. Watch for loosing weight too fast or ignoring a balanced diet. You may also seek comfort foods to make you feel better. A little doesn't hurt and it is normal to want to enjoy some foods without a little foot kicking your stomach. Again look for a big change from previous habits.
General guilt: Some women feel guilty over just about anything good in their lives or bad in someone else's. You may not be able to forgive yourself for a simple, normal mistake in caring for the baby. Look for guilt about minor things that cause no permanent harm
Disinterested in sex: This one generally becomes a key symptom later than six weeks; though it may be high your partner's list. After major abominable surgery or pushing a big baby through a small opening, most women are not immediately interested in sex. Look for lack of interest in any intimacy such as cuddling, kissing, hand holding, massages, etc. Your lack of interest may lead to feelings of inadequacy as a wife and the fear that your partner will leave you. This is one of those tricky areas where you need to talk and figure out a solution that works for both of you.
Feelings about Feelings
Some women spend a lot of time analyzing their own emotions and the emotions of others. They read more into a situation that is really there. You may start being concerned about your feelings soon after child birth. In this case it is more a question of identifying what is normal instead of looking for a real problem.
If you are concerned about your feelings at the four to six week mark, this is a good indicator that you need further evaluation by a doctor. Remember that pain is an indicator of injury, fever an indicator of infection. This concern about feelings may be an indicator of a physical problem known as postpartum depression.
Guilty or ashamed of your feelings: This is more specific guilt about having normal feelings such as frustration, irritability, being overwhelmed, exhaustion, feeling kind of down, etc.
Concern about intrusive thoughts: This may indicate that these thoughts are increasing in frequency and staying around longer. If the fear you might do something changes to plans about doing harm to yourself or the baby or fear that you can no longer control yourself, you need to see the doctor immediately. For partners and friends, the blunt approach is the best. Asking if she has such plans will not give her ideas. In fact it usually breaks the last barrier stopping her from seeking help.
Worried you are going crazy: This generally associated with an overreaction when you are irritable, anxious, unable to sleep, have difficulty concentrating and experience ruminating thoughts. Being worried about it actually indicates that you are not going crazy.
Afraid your partner will leave you: This may or may not be rational since a new child and your behavior certainly puts a strain on your relationship. Women tend to spend more time thinking about and analyzing relationships than men. If you become preoccupied with this fear, it is a problem. A casual mention of this is probably a request for reassurance.
Worried it will never get better: As these feelings persist longer you think they should, you can start to believe that you are doomed to stay this way. Your loss of hope does not make things easier.
When You Think You have Postpartum Depression
The primary focus of this section is to help you figure out if you are suffering from postpartum depression. This requires an open mind. You may or may not be suffering from it. You and your partner or friend's job is to identify the possibility and provide facts that a doctor or other health professional can use to make an evaluation. The trigger points for seeking an evaluation are:
· Anytime you think you may harm herself or the baby. This is more than fear that you might do it.
An evaluation does not mean you are suffering from postpartum depression. It means that you need a more professional opinion. This evaluation may lead to treatment for a diagnosed problem or may provide reassurance that nothing is really wrong.
What to Expect with Evaluation and Treatment
Getting to a doctor for evaluation is the biggest step. An evaluation for postpartum depression should be part of you six week postpartum check up, but some doctors don't go in depth unless the patient asks about it. Thinking about this before the appointment helps everyone involved.
The doctor will evaluate you by asking a series of questions. The chart in the back of this book can help answer these questions. The doctor may refer you to a specialist for further evaluation. Other than “wait and see,” the treatment options are generally, medicines that help reset the brain chemistry, therapy to change views or a combination of both. Consistency and follow up with either approach are the keys to success.
Treatment for PPD will probably take 4 weeks or longer to see significant changes. However, you may feel somewhat better immediately due to finally identifying the problem and doing something about it. This isn't a cure but more relief.
Medicines
The medicines are usually anti-depressants that affect the production and use of serotonin in the brain. Most of the medicines get into the breast milk. If you are breastfeeding, you must discuss this with your doctor or pharmacist.
It commonly takes 4-6 weeks for the brain chemistry to readjust. Currently the American Psychiatric Association recommends staying on the anti-depressant medicine for 6-9 months after you start feeling better. This allows the adjustment of brain chemistry to become more permanent and prevent a relapse. The decision to stop taking the medicine should be made with your doctor, since it is better to taper off than quit cold turkey.
The doctor may also prescribe anti-anxiety drugs. While anxiety is often found with depression, its cause is different. Anti-anxiety drugs should be used for a short time and taken only as needed.
Any of these drugs can have side effects. Some like a headache will go away after a few days. Others like nausea require some tricks to manage them. If the side effects are more than you can handle, go back to the doctor. He may change the dose or prescribe a different medication. A drug doesn't do any good if you don't take it because you feel worse when you do. Ask your pharmacist about counter acting the side effects.
Therapy
Therapy is basically talking to someone who is skilled at asking the right questions and getting you to think about things. It also helps you release pent up emotions and develop strategies to deal with your problems. Psycho-therapy, talk-therapy and counseling are common terms for this.
Most people don't know exactly why therapy works, but it does. Not knowing the “why” is not such a big deal. Doctors only figured out how aspirin works a few years ago, despite using it for centuries.
Therapists help the patient see things from a different angle, think in new ways and provide mental/physical techniques to make changes. These new ways of thinking or different perspective may result in changes in brain chemistry.
Therapy generally takes longer to see progress or feel better than medicines but produces more permanent changes. After an initial evaluation, most therapists want patients to commit to a specific length and course of treatment. Four to six months is not unusual.
Psychotherapists, Psychiatrists, Psychologists, Social Workers, Chaplains, and other counselors can provide these services. The therapist should have training and experience in treating depression or postpartum depression. For this to work you need to feel comfortable with the therapist.
What your partner or friend should do to help during treatment
· Get her to see and talk to a doctor.
While treatment for postpartum depression takes a while, it isn't a lifetime commitment. Things will get better. You will have good days and bad days. Then one day you will discover that this isn't a problem anymore and continue with the new normal that is your life. You didn't really expect everything to go back to the way it was before you had a baby, did you.
Place a check or X in the appropriate block to indicate this symptom is present. You could also rate it as
1= mild (it is present but not really a problem)
The rating is not scientific, it just helps you judge if the symptom is getting better or worse.
The 2 week check should coincide with your baby's well baby check. You will have to remember the check at 4 weeks on your own. The 6 week check should coincide with mom's 6 week postpartum physical. You can use this chart to discuss postpartum depression with her doctor.
Click here for pdf version of the Symptom Tracking Chart
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Crying/weepy/feeling sad |
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Feeling exhausted most of the time |
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Lack of motivation |
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Difficulty sleeping |
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Ruminating thoughts |
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Unable to experience pleasure |
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Loss/Increase of appetite |
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General guilt |
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Disinterested in sex |
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Guilty ashamed or her feelings |
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Concerned about intrusive thoughts |
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Worried she is going crazy |
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Last Updated: 23-Jan-2006